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I'm an ex-Capt. (NDA-IMA)...left the army because of an accident (lost right shoulder and of course, the rest of it)...got hold of life...became a leftie...started driving and writing with left...took CAT & GMAT...joined and left ISB after 20 golden days...joined IIM Ahmedabad from there...PGP 2007 - 2009...currently in Hyderabad... Well, Life is iffy !!





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  • Stretch out your limits once a while...lest you lose your elasticity... (recent offhand thought)
  • It's better to burn out, than fade away (Neil Young)
  • This too shall pass...
  • Shit happens...Life Goes on... (adapted from Forrest Gump)
  • Don't be sad, it's over...be glad, it happened !!
  • He Knows not his own strength, who hath not met adversity - Ben Johnson
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Saturday, December 15, 2007

Expectations in life...Indifference



While doing probabilities in the Quantitative methods subject here, came across a realization which I could prove using conditional probability. In life (in general) and in all our relationships, be it between siblings, friends, peers, lovers, relatives or anybody; expectation from the other person plays a big role, which at times becomes the cause of disappointment. You go-do something out-of-the-way for a close friend, when time comes he/she doesn’t reciprocate, you feel bad…..You have feelings for someone and show it, doesn’t get reciprocated, you feel bad….you work hard for an assignment and expect cooperation from your peers….don’t get it… don’t get a good result either, feel bad….You help out a stranger in a difficult situation and when you need help from another stranger in another situation, no one comes forward---feel bad….

My point is, we should NOT...NEVER EXPECT. Sometimes you help someone and expect at least a courtesy 'thanks'…when you don’t get that (maybe because the person forgot or not used to saying it), you feel bad….don’t do so…welcome it but don’t expect a ‘Thanks’....it shouldn't matter. You love your GF (/BF) unconditionally with all your heart and expect the same from her (/him), many a times that doesn’t happen….don’t do that you’re the one who’s getting hurt. Herez my calculation that by assigning more weightage to "Not expecting" from other ppl, you improve your “Happy:Unhappy” (probability)ratio from 1:1 to 2:1 (Click the diagram on top left for proof). Life is very small and Life is very iffy, as I keep saying.... doesn’t make sense in feeling bad n waste even a second in doing so when you can avoid it. So people, stay happy-be wise-do what you are doing-but do NOT expect...be indifferent...

ciao ppl...
ciao life...

6 comments:

Suchi Kumar said...

Wow Rajat.. this was awesome.. you have covered one of the problems in life Mathematically.. Indeed I am not surprised I call you a Champ.

Yeah agreed.. Expectations and the Frustration that arises after those expectations are not fullfiled is the root cause of all depressions.

Rajat Mishra said...

Thanks a lot gal...too much of probability in life i guess :)

Anonymous said...

hi,
this is mathematical way of saying, do your karma and leave rest to god. Be like a drop on a lotus leaf. (GITA)

Rajat Mishra said...

Yes @Anonymus,True, very true...

$hruti said...

i knw its old post but,just came across it...and i knw u nt expecting thanks from me but i really need 2 thank 2 u and 1 more person 4 letting go word expectations from my dictionary....

Rajat Mishra said...

@Shruti, I hope you tk it in the right way....really helps....avoids unnecessary tension in life coz if I understand the context right, u're hurting only urself n noone else. All the Best...